I think its like color blindness, there must be a receptor that some people have that make them aware of something in the patchouli/patchouli type scents and the wearers arent actually able to detect the same scents. I understand having to accommodate a coworker with an ADA request (although correct me if Im wrong but I believe that would come directly from the company and likely wouldnt require everyone to replace all scented everything they own because that seems like an unreasonable accommodation) but in this case its a coworker who is ceaselessly complaining about the OPS existence rather than her actual scent, based on the steps shes taken. Agreed. No one else can smell it. Mom is a total grown up hippie though. Find out if your city is a top "allergy capital.". Hopefully shell decide its too embarrassing to continue on with her charade if there are no more items left for her to be offended by. However, consideration goes both ways and it sounds like your coworker is taking this to an extreme. Problem is, no one around you sees the flames or senses the heat, so they have no sense of urgency to bolt for the doors. Honestly, if my workplace required that I stop using scents on my body, I would have a big problem with it. If it is a power trip/mean girl thing, as several commenters have suggested (and I agree) it might just set her off again, and I would lose my bargaining piece of No, seriously, Im not wearing anything, shes just being a jerk.. You've just arrived back at the office from a heavy lunch with your colleague, and from the other side of the cubicle, you hear him let out a loud, obnoxious burp. Its just her dryer sheets, but it lingers for several months. Telling someone they have to drastically alter their *non work life* to accommodate someone that doesnt like a smellhell, even someone with allergies or migrainesisnt cool. Ideally, purchase some high-quality noise-canceling earphones and leave your desk. So if the co-worker were to have a genuine allergy to patchouli, say, it wouldnt help. Im going to ask that we stop with those suggestions now and instead focus on how she should deal with the coworker, which I think will be more helpful to her. Hmm, I had no idea. Ive been even more sensitive to it with the pregnancy, and yet I wouldnt dream of asking students to quit smoking before coming to class because I cant make that request from them. I ALWAYS try to sniff and lick sweet girls' shoes. I could not smell it at all but she certainly could. >>She's super nice and friendly and it kills me that I hate her. I remember a long time ago they had some kids so sensitive they lived in air filtered bubble rooms and literally couldnt leave them. it also helps with static electricity AND acts as a fabric softener and is much cheaper than store bought fabric softener. But youre not alone and I for one believe youre probably not the problem. Or she hates the smell of all shampoo. Im trying to come up with something constructive like the rest of the comments, but all that keeps going through my head is why are you so obsessed with me? a la Mean Girls. I also think that the OP should go to HR and let them know what has been going on. If so, that means that in the co-workers mind, the OP is trying to get away with wearing stuff that shes promised to stop wearing, which would explain her being shirty about it. :(. Exactly. I think at this point, management needs to be involved. For me, my comments were about where the smell could still be coming from, since OP seems baffled that they could be smelling like anything after all theyve done to eliminate smells from their person. Im sorry, no. Its a supervisors job to do that. Be clear that you took her complaints seriously & youve done all you can reasonably do, then suggest that she look for other causes that arent you. I think they probably picked the maple-nut ice cream because it wasnt a flavor they were going to randomly run into between the initial exposure and the aversion test a few weeks later, but it was nice enough that kids would actually voluntarily choose it in the first place. (I generally do use some sort of rub but if Im lazy thats fine.) Entomology researchers that work with disparlure, the pheromone for gypsy moths, can continue to attract gypsy moth males for many years after they stopped working with disparlure even perhaps their entire lives. Were there any complaints prior to this (about anything, not necessarily OPs scent)? How is 24/7 sniffling allowed in an office space without repercussions? It came on after a bad cold last year. Also, what if someone cant change products due to an allergy? After everything LW has gone through, she has more than complied. Like, yes! Please cut it out.). I have had to give away clothes I bought on eBay before that were so saturated with perfume that I could not wash it out, even with multiple washings and with leaving the garment hanging outside in the fresh air a long time. If shes going to be a jerk when Im basically completely unscented, why not just go whole hog and smell delightful? Some spells last for hours, some all day and some effect me breathing as well as I am constantly sniffling. {Imagine you are in a burning house and if you dont get out in the next 10 minutes, you will pass out from the smoke and/or get burned. Oh, its called scent layering? Go stand in the snow for a bit and it will seem so nice and toasty in here when you come back!. This is definitely on this co-worker. Another thing that helps is do things that help hyperventilating - like holding breath for a bit. And while you'd just love to tell them to. She needs a personal air filter, and to leave the OP alone. Its driving my husband insane. It may be that she or he is having an psychosomatic reaction to a scent however. Hell, it annoyed me. She is being a jerk. Im not OPs coworker, and obviously OPs coworker isnt pregnant like I am, but for the entire duration of my pregnancy Ive had a slightly stuffed nose. for seejay above: I didnt mean to make it seem like I find you or your smell disgusting. You did the decent thing by switching up your products when she first complained, and if shes still having a reaction to something, she needs to explore other potential sources (asking for your help in a respectful way if needed). The owners were awful about maintenance, the bosses called OSHA in and they had a Big Bird sized canary over the safety issues. * Unscented products dont work well on me. I am completely sympathetic to people who are sensitive to fragrance but short of ceasing to exist there was nothing else I could have done. If you feel as though you're about to burp, get up from your desk and walk to the washroom or even an empty part of the office. Should I just ask to move elsewhere on the floor? I had to have an accommodation that I was warned early enough to take PTO for the day of and the day after, and that it HAD to be approved at no penalty to me, because I just could not be there. By accepting all cookies, you agree to our use of cookies to deliver and maintain our services and site, improve the quality of Reddit, personalize Reddit content and advertising, and measure the effectiveness of advertising. Thats a good point. They should only be sniffing when you give them their release word (like "Break" or "Ok"). Let go of the guilt. People tend not to. Out of curiosity, does the sound of a nose being blown bother anyone here? If OP regularly wore scents, it is possible the scent is there and she is noseblind to it. Agreed on the connotation, but I also note that its got some nice up-market uses as well; Chanels Coromandel is one of my favorite perfumes, and its built on a patchouli note. The exaggerated sniffing, the pointed remarks about patchouli (which definitely smells NOTHING like lemon)those arent the behaviors of someone who is genuinely trying to solve an unfortunate issue. Instead, shes making an ass of herself. I wonder, are there treatment options for people who are extra sensitive to fragrances? When That Pain in Your Mouth Is a Salivary Stone, How Sinus Problems Can Affect Your Sex Life and What to Do About It, What to Know About Losing Your Sense of Smell and How It Relates to COVID-19, Chronic Rhinorrhea: 7 Surprising Causes of Constant Runny Nose, 6 Sore Throat Remedies That Actually Work. My husband had to calm me down. I would go to HR myself and complain that I am being harassed by a co-worker who in spite of your having ended wearing the perfume that bothered her is waging a campaign of harassment against you. At this point you have done plenty to make her life easier, and she is being rude. Is the problem with ME personally or something that I am wearing or carrying? Let her sniff your jacket or your bag for example. Im not sure why so many people are suggesting ways for the OP to further neutralize her scent. This might be a long shot, particularly since it really just seems like your coworker is being a jerk. Advertising on our site helps support our mission. I didnt know that about the ice cream thing! Used only a little, but it took four washes to get most of the scent out of my clothing. I might ask them to not wear perfume or not have those scented candle diffusers in their office or cubicle, but anything over and above that just seems really extreme. I am scent sensitive but not to all scents, and I have colleagues who are more sensitive than I but who can tolerate things I cant.). He never had drainage or other cold or allergy symptoms. You can tell her, You said the smell was on my purse and now I have a new purse, so I dont think youre being fair. Secondly, this smell process should embarrass her enough to put a lid on the sniffing and the comments. OP tell your coworker that youve done all you will do and to knock it off. I will stop wearing perfume for a coworkers benefit; I am not going to change my detergent, stop using my preferred soap, stop using lotion, stop using scented candles/incense/whatever around my own home or replace my furniture or clothing. :D (Rabbit is pretty up there too actually and remarkably similar to chicken.). Making up a story about how you're going to adjust your perfume doesn't accomplish that either. Unless you saw an allergist or ENT doctor, you might never know you have it., With such a long list of possible causes, how do you get to the bottom of your runny-nose problems? I have a coworker who is brash, cool, and seemed real. If her coworkers sensitivity is that acute, it is up to management to arrange that shes isolated from scents that bother her, not up to her coworkers to arrange their entire lives around it). I thought he did it brilliantly well even though it was a tough thing. And its one of the most powerful triggers available. Stop eating any food that has the potential to be fragrant? I would second Allisons advice to talk to your manager if this was happening to one of my employees I would want to know about it. In the end, he just didnt ride down with me, but in the days since then hes retold the story to all our coworkers about how I made him feel bad by saying he smells. It smells like unwashed bodies with bad b.o. 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