But he lets M. dance with who ever when we go out J. so he doesn't have to get out on the floor. good luck! Jealousy comes from a lack of trust. I'm 36 and he is 40, with two young kids who are adorable. Do I do that without my SO? 1. Like doing some. he always blames it on being wasted and passing out. musician | 7 views, 0 likes, 0 loves, 0 comments, 1 shares, Facebook Watch Videos from Gee Broadcasting Corporation: Our Guest is Kahnma Karnga. It can feel like a never-ending cycle of disappointment and rejection, leaving you wondering if you'll ever find a meaningful connection. The problem with being alone is, that usually means you'll have to find people to talk to and thats sorta the fishy part for the spouses I think. I did it again. .. Why boyfriend doesn't call? "But if your partner has started going out more and leaving you at home, that could indicate that they've got one foot out the door. Or am I just being silly? . So I asked him and he said the girl bit him. Again, there are exceptions. WE did just make up from a fight couple days ago. I never liked this part of a relationship. (Even if we've J. he knows you get hurt by what he does but still continues partying like someone who's single. AskMen, Become a Better Man, Big Shiny Things, Mantics and guyQ are among the federally This could be a sign of cheating because he is projecting onto you. pastoralcucumbers SO to your question. That, combined with him expressing a desire to do MORE of this bar-going WITHOUT ME and spending less time with mePLUS he comes back from the bar, telling me about girls that are hot for himit's giving me some serious issues that are threatening our relationship. I can honestly say that I never knew women were generally attracted to other women. You may not *intend* for anything to happen, but there is always a starting point to relationships and a lot are from "casual" chats at the local bar. *Could* I go to a bar w/out my spouse? If he cares about you telling you what he is up to would just be second nature. We are individuals sharing the same goals in relationship. Each family and marriage/relationship should be striving to find its own balance which has its foundations resting upon fundamentals such as love, trust, hard word and communication. He TEXTS YOU while he's OUT WITH THE BOYS?! jwrunner81 To us, our family is our priority and they come first. Started December 23, 2022. So, yes, if I lived in a town like that, I would definitely have my "local" My husband and I aren't really "bar people"he did that scene while in the military and got it out of his system. Honestly..what i'm going to start doing is when I know hes going out to drink, you should just play his game..don't text/ call him..let him come to youif he does. With us its always all good because we know with who, where and why the other person is going out. I am not sure what the inside of a bar looks like nowadays.We J. don't go anyway. Yes I go out with out my husband.. if Im talking to anyone and they try to pick M. up using thier cheesy lines I let them know right away Im married. If it was a few hours I'd be fine but he goes off grid for like 10/12 hours at a time and then texts to say his phone died, or he left it at home etc should I be questioning this? First of all, guys NEED this time to well, do what guys do. If everyone is happy and fully informed, then well done and furthermore none of my business. It is a neighborhood place that serves beer and wine.. but also burgers and stuff. The "Cool" way to think. I just want to hear stories of people whose SO goes out with his/her friends and your ok with it? My boyfriend goes out all night and doesnt call or text me a By entering this site you declare I do the same thing for a girls night out. (We are both 29 btw) When I expressed my feelings of disagreement, he told me I'm being insane. Sure, you're at home Jonesn' about it, but that's ok you'll make it through, and he'll appreciate it. Best Sex Positions to Improve Your Sex Life. Anyways, that is the past, but you know how the past has a way of coming back and biting you in the behind! Nah, I've never hung out at a bar alone. It's not that we can't go out, we J. don't want to. At all. We met online and rea Why does he text me all day about sweet things and stuff but never call? he'll want me to stay in touch with him when I go outbut then once he goes out its MIA for hours and hours. I have a friend that I met on eharmony. I like how you worded it. If her spouse or at least one co-worker were there, then no problem, but not one on one (unintentional pun). Whether he is hooking up with another girl or not, I'd question why he would be drunk often. You are going to be better off for it, and I think that rocks. If I'm going to go out it will be with my SO. and remind him that you both can talk about anything! I have also felt the "most women are bisexual" opinion to be not true in my circles. you have no probable cause so don't get hyped up over a though. xx. Wife of 8 years straddled and flirted with my friend last night while drunk What did you do guys if you really really miss someone but you dont want to text or call him? You have to trust that he's just enjoying the company of his bros: drinking beers, talking smack and telling dirty jokes. I talked to him about it and tried compromising but it just didnt work. It's totally not like that. Karmic Relationships: What They Are & When To Leave, According To Experts, 5-Ingredient Meals That Everyone In The Family Will Love, 30 Women's History Month Facts That'll Remind You How Badass Women Are, 8 Black-Owned Parenting & Baby Brands To Try, What Parents Are Talking About Delivered Straight To Your Inbox, By subscribing to this BDG newsletter, you agree to our. Now, like I said..if this changes, and he starts wanting to go more, like my bf is, and it cuts into your alone time..then yeah. I have no problem because I love girls weekends. We had been friends and pen pals for years. Now sometimes I will go out ot a bar with some of my friends. See how he likes it. I think a lot of the nervousness comes from being worried about looking like a loner or a weirdo, but when you . The only time I got really concerned was at the beginning when would tell me she was going out with a guy friend. I actually encourage my husband to go out with his friends though.. I do not drink but I go to have girl time and chat. I had an ex bf from years ago. to M. if there is an air of "i am free, i do what i want, hey you're interesting, i'll talk to you!" If im with someone i trust fine, go have fun. If he doesn't give you the reaction your after. The good thing about that is when he turns M. on or says sexy things to M., I don't have to turn him down and I get to go home with him! I have seen some of the married women that do. what do I do? Short answer: yes, it's okay. Me and my boyfriend have talked about how we felt several times that we trust eachother so much to the point where if i dont talk to him for three days and i know hes at some crazy parties, i wont feel so worried and we trust each other so much that we both openly said that we could kiss other people if we wanted because truly we both know it wouldnt be real and that we love each other. And I have to laugh at that "allowed to go out without your boyfriend" line you posted.sounds like that fellow wouldn't have been good boyfriend material, even if you had been single! I think this can be a real issue for quite a few people and can be very problematic adjusting or coming to grips with, even though there is no reason not to trust. this has been posted a long time ago and i hope you're not with him anymore. S H said it great, however i would add that the only way i go out is either with "the girls" or with my husband. If they're going out far more often than they ever used to, it might not be a good sign, relationship-wise. While they can be highly effective in reducing pain, they also come with a high risk of addiction and overdose. If you try to control things he will be running for the hills. IMO, this is one of those make or break moments of a relationship. We are all the product of our experiences. Are you his parole officer or his girlfriend? Mostly for work, like happy hours. And I suppose it would depend on that. We don't go to meet new people--we go to have girl time. My bf WAS texting me from the bar, but that has tapered off. Well, amazing how a six year old post gets a reply but upon reading, as much as six months ago someone needed clarification. It would be nice, thats why its called a relationship! I've seen a lot of posts on here recently about whether its ok for a married or committed person to go to lunch/bar with single person of the opposite sex (or same gender depending on preference) and it had M. wondering if you guys/girls ever go to a bar or an establishment where other singles are and talk to new people? "Breaking up evokes a lot of really strong emotions in people," Dr. Freitag explains. My advice - Hangout with your friends, go places that interest you without him and make sure he knows your having fun without him but don't rub it in his face. I go to a bar every once in a while, for a drink , by myself. I don't say that he should stay with me all the time, but he can send me a message from time to time. Even I have had experience with these and I can tell you how inappropriate it is to not hear from your boyfriend. Do I flirt with guys at bars when I'm out with friends? But it is a sign he isn't that serious about you, and no, its not because he is too drunk or passed out. its not good at what hes doing, but if its a long distance relationship theres nothing u can do, my guy just lives half hour away from me..pity things cant be just simple.. At first i let him do it until thats all he would do and i barely got to spend time with him. I never expected much because I knew the type of person I was dating. I guess it's all in how you carry yourself. We have a very stable relationship and have known each other for over 20 years even though we have only been married for almost 3 years. I trust him to make choices that won't betray my needs and wishes (this wasn't always true). So my boyfriend is becoming much more distant as of late. I toned down my friendliness over the years to make him more comfortable. No brainer. I'm married. I don't want to ask for his attention. 9. Anyways, tonight he is going out with his buddy (whom I have met) and he let me know. My husband will not go out to bars or clubs without M., he thinks it is wrong and makes him uncomfortable.in his defense he is devilishly handsome and gets hit on like no one I have ever seen, so I get where he is coming from. And yes, we've been hit and and continued to be bothered even AFTER we've told them we're married. This would allow him to distance himself from unpleasant feelings and dissociate from the discomfort of underlying mental problems. Rizzoli & Isles is an American crime drama series based on the novels by Tess Gerritsen, starring Angie Harmon and Sasha Alexander as the respective title characters. ENA posted a blog entry in Articles, 21 hours ago, ENA posted a blog entry in Articles, Monday at 07:16 PM, ENA posted a blog entry in Articles, Monday at 07:24 PM, ENA posted a blog entry in Articles, Monday at 07:29 PM, By My bf did all these things, too, but now he's not. A bar you've been to with him and women are frequently coming to say hi to him, hugging him, getting his attention. 14. Life doesnt begin at 30, dont let anyone tell you different, I feel hurt and embarassed bec he doesnt reply to my text. If I should meet another man, I see no reason not to remain friends with this man. my boyfriend and i are long distance and i'm in college. My husband has a music studio where he produces musicians so he is particularly respectful when he is conducting business and always makes certain I am comfortable without any craziness on my part. It makes me panic. No. We are comfortable with each other and trust each other 100%!! If it isn't, then do what you want. The alternative is to . Do what you feel is right. Not very often. Most chicks out here don't go out to bars as singles. As for what anyone else thought, it was irrelevant. I'm so glad someone else is in this same position! You know the one that is filled with mostly guys, laid back and where everyone knows everyone and if you don't you will by the time you walk out and people cheer when you walk in the door? I did indeed go and sit next to people I hadn't seen in months including some single men and proceeded to hug and be picked up by every guy I knew (oh how I love this bar, I'm 6 foot- so its rare to get the hug where people pick you up in the air and you get to feel like a girl lol) so anyway I do this every so often (usually once a month when my boyfriend has his Irish meeting, we'll take one car after dropping Emmy off with her dad, and I'll go here while he does his meeting) and usually my boyfriend will meet M. out or I will meet him out at some point in the night and we'll hang out with friends and have fun, but for a good portion I'm happily talking to whoever I want to, not gender biased or relationship status biased. BUT, remember, he is out, don't go ballistic if you don't hear from him, and leave him alone while he is out. in the situation you describe it doesn't sound like your relationship with your bf is that serious, you're not married and you don't call him a fiance. We've been going there for about 3 months now. No, I could care less. 10. My issue here is probably from my past. But, to each his own! They have these piano bars here and my hubby and i went oncebut was not something we said, "HEY, lets go again !" They are in a long distance relationship and that's not about sitting at home, missing and texting each other 24/7, gosh. I have issues with my bf going to the bar because my ex is an alcoholic. Bars are often pick-up spots and can offer temptation for someone who's on the fence in their relationship.". So *would* I go to a bar w/out my spouse? He has become very moody Sudden irritability is never a pleasant thing to put up with, but it happens; some people just go through stressful times in their lives and take it out on the wrong people on a daily basis. Even though I know he wouldn't just the thought of my boyfriend getting drunk worries me that he will make a bad decision. I feel like that is dangerous behavior. Wind him up make him jealous. By Right now, it seems he's being attentive to your needs. Do I end things? My husband and his friends will have a "guys" weekend once a year. I do think it is okay to have opposite sex friends. This is what gets you in trouble. While this can be a helpful resource for some, others are using these platforms to self-diagnose and potentially harm their mental health. Be In Touch with Him. A few times a year I'll go out dancing with my friends (my husband despises dancing) and once in a blue moon I'll meet someone in a bar to chat. I envy those who can go out. im **** off he doesnt call but should i be worried or just let it go? Maintaining organization for your electronics is very enjoyable. But we can do that because we are older and have an understanding of what we want out of life. . Your boyfriend is an adult who shouldn't have to notify you of all of his comings and goings. So, I told him i dont want him to feel he has to ask me whenever he wants to do anything. We dont live together, we arent married. He does not even care if I go dancing cause he knows who I am going home to. Warning signs that your male partner is emotionally controlling you. But that's J. M.! Don't make the same mistake I did. <3. I have more guy friennds than girlfriends. He has never given M. a reason to worry about that even if he went with females. If after talking about it you still object to him going to strip clubs, that's okay! I would never do anything to hurt him and it makes me feel really appreciative that he knows and trusts that. By all means. To M. it seems like it's J. some women who are attracted to women, not the majority. CinnamonRoll As I mentioned above, he may just need some time to himself. That's right. And I kinda think your J. as likely to get picked up having a coffee at starbucks. (ok i'm being nice, i think it sends that message loud and clear, because men are horny pigs :) -said with love lol.) To use this example: "I don't want to be . My Hubby Do Not Let Me Go Out When I Wanna Have a Girl Night outwhy? That is exactly what's going on with me. But when it seems like there's a sharp increase in time apart, that's not a good sign for your relationship.". I don't ask many questions. So if you know your husband goes to the townie bar, gets all excited to see the regulars, cheers when people walk in, picks ladies up so they can feel girly, and flirts, then yes, you shouldn't feel bad to do the same as long as you are both feeling happy about it and having fun. React Reply Cleveland Follow Explorer Age: 36 , mho 37% +1 y If he can go out so can you. Price: $18. I guess I J. don't see how going to a bar solo and getting into situations where there's lots of alcohol, music and men are hitting on you/questioning your relationship can be very good at all for your current relationship. In the past he would ask me if he can go out with his friend to the bar because he knew I get very nervous. To get drunk. We recently got married and he got divorced two years and a half ago. I am a single Mom so I am almost never without my kids. Like your man, my girl would often text me while she was out, telling me she was thinking of me. Seinfeld (/ s a n f l d / SYNE-feld) is an American television sitcom created by Larry David and Jerry Seinfeld.It aired on NBC from July 5, 1989, to May 14, 1998, over nine seasons and 180 episodes.It stars Seinfeld as a fictionalized version of himself and focuses on his personal life with three of his friends: best friend George Costanza (Jason Alexander), former girlfriend Elaine . And if I'm going for a walk, to the grocery store, the gym, or out with my best friend, I make sure he knows where I'm going, when I'm going, and when I'm on my way home. If you have an open relationship that should be discussed . 2023 BDG Media, Inc. All rights reserved. He had work but still a simple text would've done. The second time he disappointed me was when he got so angry at me because he had an argument with his friends. So try not to take it personally and give him the space he needs. How many people have you slept with in your life?? After a couple months of dating I learned her guy friend was gay. Keep being yourself, good relationships are hard to come by, and people are only jealous of yours :). wha NC for 4 months, ex didn't send me a text call or Anything for my Bday, tog She only talks, or texts in response to my call/text. So no I wouldn't do that, but I would have an opposite sex friend even in a committed relationship if it was okay with all parties involved. 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